I'm pretty certain we've talked about this before, in various ways -- particularly the connection between the atmosphere/popularity of hookup bars and the Internet. My thoughts about this stemmed from the fact that after thirty years of trying (again and again, like an idiot), I finally found gay bars comfortable, even welcoming, and I've become what I often call a late-in-life barfly. What I figure is that the people whose only goal was hookup were playing a different game than me so there was no connection and I felt odd and alien -- and the Internet has filtered those people out. What's left is not hookup-free, of course, and flirtation is still the byword and heartbeat, but the people who go out to bars in some way in some fashion are interested in a certain sort of social/group-based human interaction -- as Brian's note above reflects. That's much more to my speed and liking.
Conversely -- or maybe reinforcingly -- I am every bit as uncomfortable in the online hookup world (to the extend I've looked at it) as I ever was in gay bars when they were predominantly so goal-oriented.
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Date: 2008-04-08 05:12 pm (UTC)Conversely -- or maybe reinforcingly -- I am every bit as uncomfortable in the online hookup world (to the extend I've looked at it) as I ever was in gay bars when they were predominantly so goal-oriented.
Dinner next week?